Subject: Is This Letter Saying Its Over?
Content: Is This Letter Saying Its Over? My girlfriend broke up with a 3 weeks ago and I am still very devested, she is 29 and I am 32, so we are not kids and I will say this...she is the first girl that I have ever thought of having a future with..the strange things is she tells me she still has our picture on her nightstand and wears my sweater....so that in itself confuses me...she sent me this letter a few days ago after yet again I emailed her and asked her why she is doing this to me...I have since stopped contacting her becasue as much as I want to contact her I know this only makes things worse. The thing I did wrong if you can call it wrong was always try so hard to make her happy, then again it did not feel like trying but nevertheless...perhaps I should have been a bit more relaxed and not as accomidating..but again I can fix this easily and go back to how I act among my friends. I am hoping that old saying "don't know what you got till its gone" applies to my situation becasue I really want her back in my life... Here us the letter she sent me.... "Okee dokee, FYI...i do take it as a huge compliment that you thought so much of me to try so hard...i really do. Okay this may sound a little hokey, with my 'JUST BE' sentiments, but that's what i truely want and aspire to have in a relationship. I want to clarify, that i don't want you to change to anything (that being, change back to who you were at any point in time). I just want you to take a deep breath and know that i want to you be what ever it is that you want to be. I do believe you, that it may be easy for you to switch back to "who you really are" and relax which is awesome..you're just you! Perfect! The thing is i need time to process that, so I can interact with you differently and see you for the individual that you are. That's why i've always said i'm going to need time and space because i really need to remove myself from us, so i can see everything from a differnet perspective...so then, when we see each other again...I can just take it as what ever it is, like on our first date we just were...at that point in time, we can both see how it really feels and go from there. It was hard for me to break up with you and it took me a long time to come to that conclusion that i had to do it....but i'm glad i did. I wasn't happy with how I felt, i was so confused because you were so nice (which i really liked and respected) but things always felt off and somehow contrived. I honestly feel like you understand me better now, then you ever did before. And that's great. I just want you to see this as an evolution, not as a breakup or a makeup. This needed to happen, if we were ever going to evolve into anything real. I think that's why i always had such a hard time accepting your "I Love You's" because I never felt real to be because we lacked that ease...and i truely think love is so simple, it just is....So yes there is a risk that it may not work out in the end with us, but you know what it may. That's all i can say. I feel really good about things right now. I feel good that i can articulate what i think was wrong or missing in our relationship and i hope you really do understand me. It's not your fault, how things played out...but i hope you understand how i feel right now and why.... I want to seperate myself from what we had before...Not that things were so overly terrible or anything...I just don't want what we had before.. at all...I hope you understand that...I think you're a wonderful guy and I know you'll make someone very very happy one day. I don't know if that person is me at this point in time, but part of me looks forward to seeing you in a month or so, just to so we can see where things are and see if it's right or not. Take care" Is this somthing that can be saved or is it over?
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